Want to spice things up in the bed ? A better diet and some lifetstyle changes can help you find what your looking for under the sheets.
If you’re saying, “not tonight” more than just tonight. This jumpstart is for you. See what you like and then try the sex boosters to get your mojo back on.
Sex therapist Kelli Young in Toronto says one of the most common questions she receives from clients is whether their libido is up to snuff.
“There is really no specific level when it comes to the sex drive of a person “, she says. We all have different bodies that run their engines also differently. And we know that no two people are the same. Some want to have sex everyday others monthly and there are some who want even lesser and that is perfectly fine. “If you and your partner are satisfied with your level of desire, then in all likelihood your sex drive would be considered normal and healthy.”
“However, if you notice a persistent absence of any sexual thoughts or interest, and you feel particularly distressed by this, it may be a good idea to get support from a qualified health care professional,” says Young.
1. Balance the Hormones
For women sex drive is dictated by the hormones like estrogen, testosterone and oxytocin and also brain chemicals like dopamine. Say’s Dr. Pamela Frank, a licensed naturopathic doctor in Toronto.
Even for men testosterone plays a key role in firing up a man’s sex drive and when these hormones get out of control our libido stalls. 
Hair loss, extreme fatigue and increase in body fat coupled with loss in muscular mass are the signs of low testosterone in men. For women a sign of hormonal imbalance is irregular ovulation as ovulation increases the sex drive, says Frank.” There is a biological urge to reproduce when a woman ovulates”
Eating well is most important as proper nutrition brings the hormones back in balance.
• Keep away from extreme diets such as low-fat diets. “Your body needs some fat to make hormones such as testosterone, a hormone that’s essential for sexual drive,” Young says.
• Prioritize protein. “Protein-rich foods stabilize blood sugar, which helps maintain hormone balance,” says Frank. Try nuts, eggs, legumes, and fish. “They’re a rich source of tyrosine for dopamine production … so they may positively affect sex drive.”
• Eat foods that nourish the endocrine system, which regulates our hormones and influences our sexual health. Frank recommends anything rich in zinc, selenium, magnesium, and B vitamins, such as kelp or shellfish.
Don’t underestimate classic aphrodisiacs. “Oysters are a rich source of zinc,” says Frank. “Chocolate is a rich source of magnesium. And everyone knows that the way to a girl’s heart is through chocolate!”
2. Sweat your way to sex
Sex burns around three calories per minute and when were having trouble with that a gym workout can enhance the sexual drive performance. Exercise releases endorphins, which trigger hormones that get us on it also improves circulation so blood gets to the areas we want.
An important exercise to squeeze in—pun intended—is Kegels, which work the pelvic floor
“Strong, healthy pelvic floor muscles contribute to improved genital sensation, enhanced sexual pleasure, and stronger orgasms,” says Young. “If they don’t get a regular ‘workout’ they can become weak … and eventually atrophy. This is truly a ‘use it or lose it’ scenario!”
Kegels may improve orgasms and erections for men. And for women, Young says it can help with common menopause-related symptoms that cause discomfort during sex.
3. Let go of the stress before you undress
You take what happens outside the bedroom inside as external factors have a greatly profound effect on what’s happening or not happening in the sheets.
Find out what’s troubling you and get the help you need. Chronic stress throws water on our passion’s fire by blocking the production of sex drive-related hormones. “Get help with the issues that are causing you the most stress,” says Young. Natural remedies include
• Deep Breathing, Meditation and Yoga are very helpful to balance the bodies hormones by relaxing and energizing the body.
• Aromatherapy with bergamot , lavender or clary sage essential oils are very good at calming the nerves and giving the senses a tranquil.
• Vitamin C, Panax ginseng and L-the nine supplements
4. Be proactive
Waiting for the sex drive to kick in might take too long. Like a manual car, sometimes we need to get it rolling before the engine starts. “Many of us lead very full, busy lives, so expecting that sex will just happen spontaneously is unrealistic,” says Young
Instead of waiting for a desire to be created we can create are responsive desire. Here’s how it works:
• Schedule date nights that are liked by both of you to be intimate. Choosing a specific date and blocking it off on your calendars.
• Lay next to each other in the bed,
• Caress each other in arousing ways that the other and you find pleasurable.
• Chose to do what’s fun for you “Your arousal triggers sexual desire and motivation to continue to be sexual,” says Young, “leading to emotional and sexual satisfaction, which in turn contributes to your motivation to have sex the next time—a positive feedback loop.”
Sexy supplements
These natural supplements and sex aids can make for a better romp in the sheets. Remember, always check with your health care practitioner before taking a new supplement.
Nitric oxide
“It acts … to boost blood flow into erectile tissues,” says Lisa Leger, holistic health educator in Parksville, BC. To boost nitric oxide production, try eating beets or taking a supplement.
Natural lubricants
Dryness can make sexual performance difficult, which in turn can make us want sex less. Leger recommends aloe-based lubes.
L-arginine
This amino acid supplement may boost nitric oxide for men and women.
Tribulus terrestris
Both Leger and Pamela Frank, ND, recommend it for boosting testosterone and sex drive. “It’s not instantly effective and would require daily dosing to eventually take effect,” notes Leger. It may be especially effective for postmenopausal women.
Turnera diffusa
“It’s one of the most highly appreciated plant aphrodisiacs,” says Frank.
Tongkat ali
According to Frank, it is used to directly improve libido for women. Studies show it may also help men and women reduce stress.
Light therapy
Research highlights how decreased sunlight in the winter and spring may lower testosterone in men and reduce ovulation in women. As sun levels begin to peak, so do conception rates.
“Not all supplements are created equally,” warns sex therapist Kelli Young. “Look for supplements that … contain clinically proven ingredients. Choose only products that have been licensed by Health Canada.”